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Unfortunately, what you're Silent spanking to avoid is the best part of spanking — the solid, rhythmic swat and accompanying sound. Find a song with a lot of clapping in it, turn it up loud enough so the clapping is heard, but not loud enough to bring a knock to the bedroom door and make sure the door is locked! Posted October 9, I speak of these in multiples because I made about four different models, all similar. However, it takes a very determined and acclimated sub to remain silent during a whipping with this implement. ETA: Oh Silent spanking at that, I moved up a rank. What can I do to help my boyfriend? Again, this kind of relationship is based on consent. Silent spanking have just left my husband.
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My butt was not on fire, it was excruciating.
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- My butt was not on fire, it was excruciating.
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I'm not very good on day-to-day updates so you might want to check every week or so. Also, be sure to check out my interactive spanking story and my spanking story blog. Wonderful advice, thank you! You've obviously done a lot of "research! Of course, the best part is when they're doing lawn work outside because then we'll never be heard!
Matt, Sir. You have certainly gotten off to a wonderful start here! Thanks,some cool ideals. We underwent fairly significant renos earlier this year, and our bedroom was on the list. Alas, we pulled up the carpet for hardwood, which is a great thing for esthetics and cleanliness We put fire and sound retardant insulation along the interior wall, replaced our hollow core door with a fire retardant one, and bought some of those magnetic vent cover panels.
Helps a bit, but still not wonderful. We have another adult living in the basement and children on the second floor with us, so we read: I, the paranoid one try to create as much rhythmic noise not of the hand on rump variety as possible.
I run the dishwasher, toss a load of laundry in, and put on the bathroom fans both in our ensuite and the kids' bathroom. Ensure all windows are closed, toss pillows on the floor vent, stick magnetic panel on cold air return, close and lock door. That's our current plan. No idea what I'm going to do when the kids start staying up later than we do. Actually I'm not sure I've had much luck with "white" noise - aerobics tapes or musicals on DVD like Chicago might work a lot better.
And if it's your basement the adult is living in, there may be things you can do to the ceiling downstairs - or buy grandma a new hi-fi, or headphones, or a noisy air conditioner I take it from all this that you don't like any of my quieter toy suggestions - admittedly a lot of them are wicked. If you got two or three of these, you could cover all but one with different kinds of leather and the difference in feeling and intensity is night and day! I'll see if I can post a picture that would help, I don't know of any stock paddle makers that promote curve-faced paddles.
I just noticed you didn't mention throw rugs - a fabulous faux Persian could do wonders for your love life and eliminate the need for spanking all together!
I recently had the quietness problem as our twenty year old son seemed to be around all the time. In desperation I tried my wife's think comb and it worked without too much sound. I missed the sting and the noise but it got me through that period when I could have been very frustrated. We've used the mini-blind wand many times. They are quiet and have a very nice sting. However they can and do break so please be careful My bf recently felt he needed to give me a spanking, but my roommate was in the same apartment sitting in the living room.
So he took me to my bedroom, asked me for my hairbrush, then had me take off everything from my waist down and go over his knee. He spanked me with the bristle side of the hairbrush! It wasn't a long spanking at all, maybe only 2 minutes, but OMG that stung! It was quiet though. Post a Comment.
Matt's Spanking Blog. Taking the Noise Out of Spanking. About Me Matt Anglen View my complete profile. With a huge variety of toys at my disposal and numerous opportunities to experiment, I've come up with a few suggestions.
If it's neighbors you're worried about, one thing to consider is how quiet you really need to be. Rocking the bed off its foundations, however, is still a no-no for second-story dwellers.
Unfortunately, what you're trying to avoid is the best part of spanking — the solid, rhythmic swat and accompanying sound. Disciplines that avoid these are going to be a lot less noticeable but probably a lot less enjoyable. The challenge is to find answers that fit your lifestyle while addressing your situation. Just a Spanking Let's start with hands, always the best thing to spank with.
There's always one around when you need it, they draw little suspicion, and whether you think they feel "good" or not, the feel better than a lot of things! The way a guy holds his hand can make a big difference in how much noise he's making — as for you, you're on your own. If he flexes his fingers back thumb, too he'll give a very thuddy feeling with a lot less sound.
Whether he's using his hand, hairbrush, or paddle, technique will have a big influence on sound versus effect.
However, many curved-back brushes end up with too small an area for spanking, and a better alternative is a bigger one for once — a nice long wooden clothes brush with gently curved edges. In the kitchen, you might try a heavy wooden spoon - we got one at an Indian shop - or any hardwood spoon. Target's better ones are pretty good. They're very painful and less noisy, though not completely quiet. Spatulas are loud. Also try to avoid holes, they can be a problem in kitchen implements — and do not use a pasta-lifter, the hole in the middle will make a super-blister.
A Really Quiet Paddle-Feeling Toy This is going to sound a little odd, but I think it works okay — we have a "thumper," a super-heavy cane that's used lightly for an erotic charge. I made it out of bamboo but it got me thinking how else we could make one, and the ones I came up with make pretty decent paddles, despite seeming kind of silly. They give a heavy, solid swat though I can't guarantee they'll leave you very sore but I think they will.
I speak of these in multiples because I made about four different models, all similar. For these, I went to the home-improvement store and got some short pieces of plastic sprinkler pipe — 18, 24, and 30 inches are probably best, depending on otk or bent over. Similar diameter bamboo from the crafts store would be okay too. Then I got pipe insulation — I think there's two diameters and two thicknesses.
Pipe insulation is a long sleeve of foam rubber with a hollow core for the pipe to go through. I glued different sizes of pipe insulation on the different core pipes, thinking it would be a pretty soft massager — not quite! The result was something that delivers a paddle-smack without a sound! I've wanted to wrap this in something, since it seems like the foam insulation is, well honestly, a little silly.
But I haven't gotten that far yet. Typically straps and belts are noisy and have a very distinctive sound. A multi-fall flogger is much less noticeable but you have to find one you like — the thinner the falls the quieter but stingier. The hard, belt-leather type falls make a lot of noise but you may find that a session with slightly softer, quieter falls works for you. Wetting the bottom makes the same amount of spanking go farther and works particularly well with rubber.
The combination of wet and the rubber flogger can generate a pretty good spanking with a minimum of suspicion. And if done in the shower, it gives another level of sound protection assuming the howling doesn't carry. Cat says to put it in hot very hot water, stretch it over something straight or weight one end, and let it dry — maybe using your hairdryer. Also, it's not the binding that counts, it's the three loops, so there's dozens of ways to put them together. The only other thing I'd suggest is the plastic rod off of the mini-blinds — in case you're too embarrassed to order a cane.
If you use switches make sure you use them as soon as you cut them because they dry out in minutes and then they're too stiff. If you have a ton of money who does? We have a bag of flexible pencils, a schoolkid's novelty from the dollar store, that work as very painful quiet otk switches. Round off the ends or they can mark.
The wand is silent and very very stingy, especially when snapped. The one we use for flies, actually has a strong handle about like coat-hanger wire with a thin plastic or rubber coating. It's bent into a narrow loop that would be perfect for smacking someone with, though it seems pretty severe.
Other Approaches Corner time, of course — we saw one picture of a girl on her knees, head in the corner, partly supported by her arms, that has to be hard. My suggestion, which Cat didn't like, was to have you stand on tip-toe, using a pencil to hold a glass of water against the ceiling. Or if you open a door, reach up, and have him stretch a piece of elastic over the top, so you have to keep that position the idea is, if you let go of the elastic you can't put it back yourself.
Having to kneel on your fingers, that was a favorite of the nuns… speaking of nuns, they'd wrap a rubber band around some poor soul's wrist and then snap it on the inside… or draw an "X" on the blackboard and make you keep your nose on it interminably. Ice cubes… these can be cruel in the right hands… or the flip side, very hot towels they're heavier than wet washcloths , especially as a prelude to a spanking. For something you said, there's washing your mouth out or brushing your teeth etc.
Sound Protection As far as noise protection, I think big glass sliding doors are the worst culprits, followed by windows.
Point your bottom toward the closet or bathroom, not the outside wall or window. If you have a basement and small kids, and have been reluctant to go down there while they're sleeping and leave them unattended , you can get a nursery monitor, a one-way intercom that will let you hear if they call for you or get up and wander around.
With all of those suggestions to choose from, I hope something works that fits in well with your lifestyle! Posted by Matt Anglen at PM. Newer Post Home. Subscribe to: Post Comments Atom. Stat Counter.
It is all about how it is applied. I appreciate your advice again. I'm new to the whole concept of domestic discipline marriage. I wish you all the luck in finding what will work best in your marriage. As far as household items go, a stretched out metal clothes hanger doesn't make a lot of noise. Good luck. The spanking happened earlier today.
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Do you think its right for men to give their wives "silent spankings" when they are in public? I know a woman who got upset at her husband when he wouldn't buy her something at the mall so he made her go to the bathroom to put on some capsazin creme to make her fanny sting. I think it lasts for atleast 30 minutes. I personally don't believe the Bible authorizes this type of punishment and I think its best if things are taken care of at home or in private.
Report Abuse. Are you sure you want to delete this answer? Yes No. Answers Relevance. Rating Newest Oldest. Source s :. Add a comment. Well, first of all, such things only take place in situations where one person has consented to be held accountable in such a way. This is called a "domestic discipline" relationship, and is quite healthy if practiced in a sane manner. The other person, male or female, has to actually desire that kind of discipline in their lives, or it won't work for them.
Plus, without consent, it's not discipline. It's abuse. Do an online search for domestic discipline sites to educate yourself I'd recommend it for some of the previous answerers, too before you try something stupid with a girl that isn't interested. As for the Capsaicin, yes, that works.
The effect can be created with any muscle rub that has either capsicum or menthol, but the capsicum, preferably a high potency, will work the best. It will sting for days, actually, and is heat-activated, so a warm shower or a real spanking will cause it to flare up. Using capsicum, and then adding a real spanking on top of it will really drive the message home.
Personally, though, I prefer the hands-on approach. Again, this kind of relationship is based on consent. If you try to spank a girl, silent or otherwise, that doesn't want to be held accountable in that way, then what you'll end up with is a lawsuit. If she is doing this then it is probably a consensual arrangement that they have, and may or may not have anything to do with the Bible. Some people in Domestic Discipline relationships do think it has a biblical basis, for others it is purely a personal matter, people enter into such relationships because they believe it will enhance their marriages and increase domestic harmony.
Personally, I don't think capsazin cream will ever replace the real thing. All do respect i don't think the Bible has anything to do with this. That is bizarre, any wife you thinks that is OK is strange. I understand the fetish aspect of this but a husband should not spank his wife as punishment like she is a child.
Freaking ridiculous. Am I in the twilight zone or something? I can't believe someone actually believes that forcing someone To those of you who think this a healthy thing to do, get a life. Darren, PC Friendly, Inc. The bible never spoke of capsazin creme so looking there for answers is not going to help.
I would never do that to somebody, but if she is willing to be controlled like that then she deserves her silent spanking.
Well, that's it, Captain Spanks-a-lot. You've reached the end of the list of things to type about while you play with yourself. Here's an idea -- empty that capsaicin tube onto the itty-bitty head of your little pencil nub package.
Fun for hours and hours. Just in case I feel like I need a "silent spanking". I think it's a fetish But she was the idiot who did it willingly. Because he couldn't spank her? Does he like to pretend she's a child or what? If my husband ever spanked me in a non-playful way because of an arguement, I'd probably punch him in the face!
I love my husband to death, but that's just not right! He couldn't "make" her do anything. He gave her an instruction and she went off and did it. Spanking a spouse?? One cooperates and negotiates with a life partner.
Many evil things are done in the name of the Lord. Religion aside, how do you rationalize love with suffering? She's his partner, not his child.
Pagination 1. Existing questions. How do you feel about men making their wife or girlfriend give herself a 'silent spanking' in public? Ladies, has your man ever given you "the look"? A silent warning so you would straighten up in public without? Men, would you call your wife this? Answer Questions Coworker of my husbands is flirty I think?
Why would anyone pressure another person to have sex? What consolation or advice can you give to a person whose spouse seems to have just lost interest in them after several years of marriage?
How would you deal with the thoughts of your wife cheating and what would you do if she does cheat? Is it just me or does this woman have strong sex appeal? If a wife expects her husband to keep intimacy and sex inside the marriage BUT withholds intimacy and sex to manipulate, is an affair okay? Why do women stay married to criminals? I have just left my husband. Am I being crazy? What can I do to help my boyfriend?